Okay I call bullshit on the media (buzzfeed, boardpanda, usatoday etc.) coverage of #loveyourlines #flawless #stretchmarksandidontcare #etc.
If you’ve been living under a rock and missed the big news then let me sum it up for you:
HOT GIRLS (LIKE REALLY HOT GIRLS) EVERYWHERE HAVE STRETCHMARKS AND THEY’RE STILL HOT AND NOW FREED FROM THE SHAME BY CHRISSY TEIGEN (SMOKIN’ HOT WIFE OF JOHN LEGEND AND SUPER MODEL). THEY’D LIKE FOR YOU TO KNOW HOW HOT AND REAL THAT THEY ARE ALL IN THE SAME HASHTAG. While being the latest (and hottest) of real women to jump on the body love train. Because everyone is doin’ it.
Here’s the series of my reactions:
1st: Ohh that’s awesome good for them, wow that’s really beautiful.
2nd: Wait why are all of these women a size 5 and below, above average hight with a very low bmi? Plus they’re all bronzed and flawless well except for the flawlessness featured. (Not that I’m hating on you if you happen to be all of the right dimensions and perfect shade of georgeous, more power to you, seriously. My point is simply that your/that shape is not representative of the whole and should not be misconstrued as such).
3rd: Okay I’m not mad, it’s a step allbeit a baby one. And one that overlooks the work of many fabulous woman who have built and nurtured this “movement” to get women to stop waging war on their own bodies and each other for a good long while.
Alert: here comes a super model with the standard of an ideal body and a few tiny little barely distinguishable stretch marks on her inner thighs to make you feel like a liberated woman.
4th: You know what is actually courageous and empowering work like this: jadebeallphotography.com. And this unapologetically flawless woman themilitantbaker.com. Plus tons of other women on the internet that are fucking owning their body and the space they take up in all of their own glory and I’m going to say it brace yourself…. imperfections.
Well shit I was wrong. This is what I’m talking about. These are real women embracing their exterior and putting it all over the internet.
It’s brave and it’s freeing.
Unfortunately the major media outlets are still worried about the “unintended Diane Arbus effect” of putting ugly, fat, old, unsymmetrical, too dark or too light, abnormal looking people on the cover or content of anything. Big or small, Vogue or pulptastic.com. I mean unless you’re one of those so ugly that you’re pretty girls and then even so you must be stunningly tall and thin.
Vulnerability is poetry, terror and power.
I try and live there. It’s where I feel the most free.
Some mistake it for delusion, over confidence, my crazed nature. But really I know the secret, there’s nothing to be afraid of when you bring your story and your thighs (and right boob, and csection scar, and dimply butt, and jiggly bits) to the table first.
There I said it.
Not only is this my ass but also my dirty bathroom. Honestly, I’m more embarrassed about the arrangement of my blow dryer cord than putting all of my #flawlessness on the interweb. I promise to clean tomorrow.
It’s noteworthy that I am currently too white (yes those are my veins that you are seeing in my cover photo) and pudgy for any of my stretch marks to show up in photography. That’s real. I really don’t have that many stretch marks due to some freakish resilience in my skin, and because of Murphy’s law, the only time that you can really see them are in the summer when I’m no longer translucent and have dropped some of my winter weight.
So, here are just straight up pictures of my thighs and ass, because that suffices as a real woman showing you her real body that US Magazine isn’t trying to headline any time soon .
Plus, I do what I want and you should too.
#loveyourself #ditchthefuckingmagazines #liftupyoursisters #nofilternotbecauseitwasntneededbutbecasueimbrave