If you haven’t been listening to the podcast that is sweeping the nation than well you’re life isn’t as interesting as everyone else’s. Here it is http://serialpodcast.org. I recommend failing to complete any of your obligations and instead listening to all 9 episodes back to back completely sacrificing your sleep and sanity. Spoiler alert, there is no conclusion yet. We have to wait for WEEKS before we know the conclusion. Plus I have a sneaking suspicion that the ending is going to be well shiz we don’t know, your guess is as good as ours. This has got to be a sign of being a millennial, I don’t wanna wait waaaaaa waaahhh wahhhh. Any who on good recommendation check it out.
In a nut shell, a high school kid is convicted of murdering his ex-girlfriend in 1999. He may or may not have done it, that’s the whole point of the show. More so than solving the mystery it puts a magnifying glass on being a teenager. Making decisions, enormous decisions, that dictate the rest of your life at a time when you have so little sensibility.
I’ve yet to meet someone who thinks that at 17, 18, 19, 20, 21 or better that they should have been left to their own decision making. More so, that they realized at the time that they didn’t have it all figured out.
This story goes on and on about friendships, relationships, weed, high school politics. What struck me as the most relatable is the constant turnover of plans, interactions, going from one place to another. When you’re that young everything seems so pressing. Everything is an arrangement, a hustle if I dare. You’re bustling back and forth, conversations up in the air, plans rearranging. It’s a really intense part of your life for what? So that you can lock down a crush? Hang out with some friends? All of that feels really big then, on both sides of the coin: having it and maintaining. Or not having it and longing for it.
Then you grow out of it really quickly, well unless you’re a celebrity or work in a restaurant for way too long…. yeah that’s a jab.
That may very well be your frontal cortex reaching maturation. It could simply be a person taken out of a microcosm and put into the real world. There’s so much more space, time, consideration, patience when you’re 22. Okay that’s relative but the path to solid decision making definitely get’s less obstructed as you get older.
Maybe we (in the largest sense of the word) consider the environment that we put teenagers in? I’m not claiming to know the solution. Naturally I figure that we should just look to the Swede’s, they do everything better.
The Swedish state school system comprises compulsory school and various types of voluntary schooling. Compulsory school includes nine years of compulsory basic school, school for the Saami people of Northern Sweden, special school and compulsory school for the mentally handicapped. Post-compulsory education is offered through 17 National Programmes providing qualifications that allow students to go on to higher education. Some of these programmes also include industrial work placements. The National Programmes of upper secondary education are offered at Gymnasia and lead to the award of the Slutbetyg Från Gymnasieskola. Tuition is free.
Outside the upper secondary school system there are folk high schools (Folkhögskolan) which provide state-supported adult education lasting between one and three years of studies. There are no formal examinations. Post-secondary studies include advanced vocational training (Kvalificerad yrkesutbilding) which is intended to meet the labour market’s needs for the skills required for modern production of goods and services. About one-third of the course period takes place at the workplace.
As from January 2002, this form of training is a permanent part of the Swedish educational system but does not belong to the higher education sector. Admission is based on three-year upper secondary education or corresponding proficiency. The training is normally intended to correspond to two years of study and leads to a Certificate of Advanced Vocational Training (Kvalificerad yrkesexamen).
-full article here
We should probably just not think about it and do as the Swedish do. When I run for president that will be my platform. I bet it’ll be a sweep.
My point is that, this time in our lives, our children lives (MY CHILD’S LIFE, MAKE TIME STOP PLEASE) is inherently a shit show. Why do we consider that a right of passage? You’ll either sink or swim. Then in 5 years you’ll look back and think damn none of that shit mattered anyway, unless you’re in jail and every second of it was absolutely pivotal.
If you’ve sunk: welcome to mopping up a drug addiction, a set of twin babies, a criminal record and a reputation that you’re trying to live down. If your a swimmer, well congratulations it actually means shit, you’re crash might just be coming at a later less public point in your life. (Not that I want you to crash or that I think it’s inevitable but plenty do).
So here’s this kid in jail, now in his thirties. The podcast makes the point that he was never free. First he belonged to his family and then a ward of the state. He was flourishing in jail. Had a stack of high security prision issued accolades from the warden. He was Mr. Congeniality of the Maryland State Penitentiary. I guess you make lemonade.
Anan said, “I have a life here, not the life I planned. But I have a life”.
I guess that’s a thing.